Although conversations about Advance Care Planning may seem awkward at first, they often bring family members closer together.
Talking about death/end of life is deeply personal. Sharing beliefs and desires with those closest to you produces a more intimate relationship.
It takes courage to have these conversations.
It demonstrates your love and deep caring for one another.

Advance Care Planning is a process of conversations and directives for all adults that express your health care goals, values, and wishes in case a time arises when you are unable to speak for yourself due to injury or illness.
Here is one way to get The Conversation going:
Q: Do you have an Advance Directive?
A: Common responses to that question, with various levels of comfort:

- A what?
- I should but…
- I think so?!
- Yes, but it needs to be updated.
- Yes, so glad!
- ……..Silence
Which response is yours or that of your loved one? If you would like to get busy creating your AD, get in touch with our volunteers at End of Life Choices California, and/or simply look on our information-rich website here. We will be glad to help you get going with this very important document.
Stefanie Elkins is a guest blogger and a Client Volunteer with End of Life Choices California. She is also an Elder/End-of-Life Care Coach and Consultant. Stefanie can be found at Be Present Care in the Los Angeles area.
Does EOLC have a San Diego chapter or division. My wife’s 97 y/o father, just now, has begun to need assistance. I would like to speak to a local person which may direct/assist us with choices we now face. This 97 y/o WWII Vet is amazing and we seek amazing assistance on his behalf. Thank U.
Hi Alan,
one of our volunteers will be in touch with you shortly.
Thanks for reaching out.